Conducting the Guidelines Exercise
Propose or have the participants brainstorm the guidelines regarding work and communication during the training session.  The following are suggested guidelines and ways of explaining them to the group (if proposed by the facilitator):

1)      Value Time

Our first principle - Value Time.  Take a good look at our Training Plan.  In a relatively short span of time allotted for the training session, we have to cover some complex issues.  If we agree to value time, we are committing to being attentive, not to stray from the subject of discussion, and to trying to work within the time frame allocated for each training session.  Does the group agree to value time?

2)      Speak One At A Time

Take turns speaking.

3)      Speak Briefly And To The Point

Guidelines two and three are Courtesy Guidelines which help us to follow our first point of valuing time.  Does the group agree to speak one at a time without interrupting each other?

There are many people in this group and the opinion of each participant is valuable.  Because of this, let us speak briefly.  Those of us who can speak on each of the subjects of our sessions, should allow others to participate as well.  In addition, given our limited time, let us speak specifically on the given topic.  Does the group agree with this?

4)      Speak Only On Behalf Of Yourself

Let us try and speak only on our own behalf.  It is better to use "I believe…, my suggestion is …, in my opinion …".  Statements like the following will make the training more difficult: "Everybody thinks so …, this is widely established …, everybody assumes so …, all women are the same …, all men do so …, it was always like this…".  Also, when anyone cites information from a specific source (books, articles, media news), please disclose this source.  Does the group agree with this?

5)      Be Positive

Let us make an agreement to maintain positive atmosphere, express positive ideas and propose positive actions, respect yourself and others.  Does the group agree with this?

6)      Addition Principle

Let us consider the principle of Addition.  This principle addresses the importance of tolerance of other people's opinions and ideas.  This means that each newly expressed idea supplements what has already been said, instead of rejecting or contradicting previous statements.  There may be any number of correct answers to a given question, as they each represent the ideas and opinions of different people.  Does the group agree with this principle?

7)      Respect Each Other

Let us be respectful of ourselves and other participants.  It is important to omit from this training any comments or jokes based on gender which might be offensive.  Does the group agree with this?

8)      Voluntary Participation

The principle of Voluntary Participation means that when volunteers are needed during an exercise, it is only appropriate to volunteer yourself - it is not appropriate to indicate others.  Does the group agree with this?

9)      Confidentiality

The Confidentiality guideline provides that personal information about each participant, which may be disclosed during the classes, should not be discussed outside the session; it should remain confidential within our close group.  Does the group agree with this?

It is important that all the participants agree upon each of the guidelines and accept them.  Therefore, after the facilitator has written the guidelines on the board he or she should make sure there are no objections on anyone's part.

If one of the group members offers an additional guideline, it may be included in the list on the condition that it does not contradict any other guidelines and the group accepts it.

In case one or more participants don't agree with a guideline, the facilitator should explain how that guideline helps to achieve the training.  He or she may ask the opinion of the group.  If the facilitator's arguments do not convince the participant, it is advisable to ask him or her to trust the judgment of the facilitator and approve the guideline, and later discuss its merits.  Compiling a set of guidelines for training with the group promotes an atmosphere of cooperation.

Adapted from Prevention of Domestic Violence and Trafficking in Human Beings, Training Manual, Winrock International, Kyiv, Ukraine, 2001.